Today’s Tantrums Are Tomorrow’s Lesson 

Many of my readers may not know. My son suffers from hyperactivity. Formally his pediatric neurologist wants to confirm ADHD but since he was only two when we brought him in it was too early on. He was first diagnosed at the age of two years old. He just turned three and I feel at times it has gotten worse. Is this really going to keep on? I just can’t deal. I know he doesn’t understand since he is so small and it’s not his fault. It just can be extremely tiring and draining throughout the day.

Yes he is the only child. We plan on hopefully expanding our family in the next 2-3 years. We wanted to wait until Avery was in kindergarten. I suffer from PCOS which caused a huge amount of weight gain after child birth. I’m still currently working at. I want to be at a healthy weight before carrying another child and we also have had some financial struggles since Avery was 8 months old.

Because he is an only child he doesn’t have that type of interaction than he would being with another child. You can tell he is craving that attention. He was attending an in home based daycare which turned out to be a complete fail. The provider was not trained to care for children who suffer from hyperactivity.

My opinion of the situation changed when yes she referred him to start early intervention but on the downside, would blame him and state she couldn’t handle him. Essentially he was taken out. The agency I was going through wanted to place him elsewhere. I on the other hand as a mother declined. I couldn’t go through switching my son from place to place and also felt uncomfortable keeping him at a place where his caretaker couldn’t handle him.

He stayed home with me all Summer. Drove me to the wall crazy. He’s like a child who consumed a pack of coke. Which I also limit his sugar intake for this reason also. A child with hyperactivity has certain needs. You also need to think twice before bringing him to certain places and be in a specific environment.

He still gets overstimulated which to a normal person he is misbehaving. To myself he is needs to be moved out of the environment. It’s like “mommy I’m done. Let’s go”.

The other day. My mother and I went out for breakfast to Irontown in Saugus,Ma. I will say it was not a pleasant morning. The noise, the crowd and the people is what turned the situation into a mess. Avery was all over the place. He wouldn’t sit in his booster seat, throwing utensils around, and talking back. I could not wait to leave. As soon as we left outside he was another child.

Lesson of this article. When you see a child misbehaving/acting up in public. Don’t presume they are misbehaving. They may actually have a disorder or some type of social,behavioral or mental disability.

14 Comments

  1. September 5, 2016 / 5:19 PM

    So true about not pre-judging another person’s situation. We really don’t know what anyone else is dealing with.

    • Jalisa
      September 5, 2016 / 5:44 PM

      I used to be that person before having children. I was so scared having a child going through meltdowns etc. Now I’m going through it I finally have realized sometimes its just not terrible two’s or treacherous three’s.

  2. September 5, 2016 / 9:21 PM

    I’ve definitely had these moments too! My youngest is a very sensitive child, and I often get comments about his crying. Can’t assume anything about anyone’s kids!

    • Jalisa
      September 5, 2016 / 9:27 PM

      Thank you. ☺️☺️☺️ I’m glad I’m not the only one.

  3. September 6, 2016 / 3:03 PM

    This is a great reminder. Now that I have a kid of my own and know how much work it can be, I refrain from judging any moms lol who knows what struggles or hurdles they have had!

    • Jalisa
      September 6, 2016 / 3:20 PM

      Thank you for the read. We all as mama’s go through different things. I dislike the others who don’t have children and automatically put you down.

  4. September 6, 2016 / 9:55 PM

    This is a great reminder! Especially for fellow moms. We need to be careful not to be quick to judge. Many children have a story and a reason for their behavior. Thank you for sharing this!

    • Jalisa
      September 7, 2016 / 12:04 AM

      Thank you so much for reading. Thank you for the support. ☺️☺️

  5. September 7, 2016 / 1:39 AM

    Now that I have my own kid, I totally get it. Before I had kids, I had no idea. I wish I could go back in time and share this with myself pre-kid. Thanks for sharing!

    • Jalisa
      September 7, 2016 / 1:51 AM

      I totally get it. I was that girl. I would see your kid having a complete meltdown and say. Oooohh if only that was my kid. Now I’m in my own shoes now. I’m that mom at Target and their child is having a meltdown. Smacking, talking back, the works. I know it’s not his fault and wouldn’t trade him for anything.

  6. September 7, 2016 / 4:40 PM

    Oh momma, I get you. You sound like an incredible parent and your understanding and patience is exactly what he needs. We’ve all had embarrassing public meltdown moments with our babes. If people act annoyed, I shrug it off and think, hopefully when they have kids they’ll get it.. haha

    • Jalisa
      September 7, 2016 / 5:02 PM

      Aww thanks. At first I would get embarassed but now I do just shrug it off.

  7. September 9, 2016 / 5:55 AM

    You are SO SO right! I think people should put themselves in the mamas’ shoes for a second. It’s a tense situation to deal with private meltdowns, let alone public ones. This is such a great reminder!

    • Jalisa
      September 9, 2016 / 11:00 AM

      Thank you for the support.

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